BIO

DeAnna Kane earned her master’s degree of Science in Education Leadership from Keiser University and graduated at the top of her class. She began her professional writing career for donor development and fundraising with the Museum of the Bible in 2015 and then moved into managing many of their high-end donor events for the Museum’s grand opening in 2017. DeAnna also produces large women’s conferences as well as helped coordinate logistics for many Influence Women events.

DeAnna combined her talent for writing and event planning to launch KC Media Publishing as CEO with business partner Leslie Callaway. KC Media Publishing currently produces Heart of Hospitality Magazine combined with The Empowered Magazine, which has a presence in 34 countries. She co-authored the etiquette book Just the Basics: Manners Made Easy with Leslie, and they are writing an etiquette curriculum to accompany the book.

In addition to serving on the advisory board of Influence Women, she has accepted the position of director of the Hollywood Chapter of Influence Women. She also serves on the National Board of Mon Ami Ministries as well as serving as the executive director of communications and public relations for Connection Point Church LA. She lives in Los Angeles, California, with her four kids and a plethora of animals, including cats, dogs, and horses.

INNER VIEW

Kathleen Cooke: Influence Women is thrilled to have you as the new Hollywood Chapter Director. What has God been teaching you recently as you prepare to take on this new role?

DeAnna Kane: I think, as women, we have an over-burning desire to be successful in all we do. We strive to be perfect and accomplished and stretch our boundaries always to be doing more. I believe God has equipped us to go above and beyond anything and everything we want to do, but what He didn’t say is we have to do it alone. Of course, God’s Word tells us He will never leave us nor forsake us, but I also believe he brings people into our lives to come beside us and lift us up, support us, and encourage us. He brings people to help us and puts others in our path so that we may help them.

I struggle with asking people for help. I remember at an event, I had a friend ask me if she could help with anything, and when I gave her a task, I actually started to do the task myself as I was explaining. She laughed and said, “Did you actually plan on letting me do that, or did you just want to do it yourself?” We laughed, and I let her take over. It was clear to me that I was so used to doing things on my own that I would have to really work at letting go and delegating better. This is where women need to build their tribe. Find those people you can rely on and trust to help you accomplish all that you want to do and stop looking at other women as competition. Women really get things done, so trust that God wants you to build a tribe to succeed. God never meant us to do life alone.

Kathleen: Whenever someone is asked to do a new job or take on a new leadership role, women often think about what might happen if they fail. What have you learned about making mistakes and not letting past failures stop your forward movement?

DeAnna: One year, I was throwing a birthday party for my business partner, Leslie, and I was holding the birthday cake. I zigged, and the cake zagged. It fell to the ground with the loudest thump ever possible. I stood there looking at the cake, and the first thing that crossed my mind was, “How can I fix this without everyone knowing what I just did?” Then I heard the collective, “Noooooo…, come from behind me.” For some reason, it just struck me so funny that I burst out laughing. Of course, there was nothing I could do to keep anyone from seeing it, and when the absurd thought struck me to cover it up, it was so outlandish that laughter bubbled up, and I couldn’t stop. 

This was pivotal because when I laughed, everyone else began to laugh. Another friend had just come out of the kitchen with washed hands, picked up the cake, and plopped it back on the pedestal (leaving about an inch on the ground so we didn’t eat directly from the floor), and we all stood around it with our forks laughing and eating. It was significant because that split second could have gone differently if I had broken down and gotten upset. The entire party would have shifted in the atmosphere. But because I kept my humor, the rest of the party followed suit.

We know failures are a part of life. Mistakes happen. We also know that failures are where we grow the most. When I hosted Leslie’s birthday party, I set the atmosphere for the entire event. As leaders and influencers, we set the atmosphere. How we respond to critical situations is just as important when things go wrong as when they go right. A great leader, no matter how good or bad the situation, will always know how to respond and set the atmosphere.

Kathleen: You said earlier that women “strive to be perfect, accomplished, and stretch our boundaries to always be doing more.”  In other words, we often never stop as women. What do you do to relax and take a breather, and why is that so important to our overall success?

DeAnna: I have a horrible love/hate relationship with rest. We write about it all the time in our magazine, but very few times do we follow my own advice. Part of the reason is that we are presently a small team, and we can’t really let up because there is always so much to do and not a lot of people to help do it (thus my encouragement to find your tribe as stated above!). The other part is that I really have so much fun doing what I do that it really doesn’t seem like work.  I often forget to rest until I hit a wall and am so exhausted I drop into bed, or I let my body run out of fuel and become ill.

I know it’s a terrible trait, but it’s also a reality. A while ago, Leslie sent me a post that said, “You do not have to prove you are worthy of rest.” That really hit home, and I have found now that I tend to close the computer just a tad earlier, go to sleep 30 minutes earlier, and allow myself to pop on a TV show (I LOVE watching Asian romance dramas!) and not feel guilty. It is so important that we fill our cup with rest because if we are depleted, we can’t pour out what we don’t have. When I remember to take those moments to rest, I find that I am a better leader, business owner, and even a better mom.

So put a sticky note on your bathroom mirror, your car dashboard, or next to your bed, and in big, bold letters, remind yourself:

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PROVE YOU ARE WORTHY OF REST!

Kathleen: Social media has most certainly changed our culture, but it has also affected and influenced our personal choices. How have you navigated its effect on who you are and your work?

DeAnna: Social media is full of influencers on dozens of platforms. There is so much information out there that sometimes it can be discouraging to work at getting your message out there. In my work and ministry, I always say that if you have breath in your lungs, then God has a purpose for you. I’ve learned not to take things personally when posts don’t get hundreds or thousands of likes or interactions. I hear from friends, family, and new visitors that when they do see something I have put out, it is well received.

Don’t be discouraged when you see “low numbers” on your social media because God may be speaking to only one person through that post of yours. If you are obedient to God and listen to what He is telling you to do, you will reach the people He has in mind, and your influence will be astounding, even if you don’t know it. Just because your numbers don’t look like someone else’s numbers doesn’t make the people you are influencing any less important.