Danna Demetre

Danna Demetre

Danna Demetre is an author, speaker and Co-Founder of Ageless Women Living.

Kathleen Cooke: What has God been recently teaching you?   

Danna Demetre: “Are we there yet?” As children, we whined these words to our parents on any car ride over 30 minutes. And, we’ve heard it playing like a skipping vinyl record from the backseat in our own cars as our children (and grandchildren) pass on the blessing. We seem to be wired from birth to laser focus on the destination more than the journey.

As I near my 66th birthday, I realize more than ever that life is the journey. As I watch the years fly by at almost warp speed, I know that I want and need is to cherish every moment, capture every opportunity, and invest in every morsel of time as if it could be my last here on planet earth.

Kathleen: We’re all ambitious. Often our ambitions are for right reasons but sometimes we can push to hard and take a dive into wrong thinking and choices. What’s God taught you ambitious striving?

Danna: In my 66 years, I’ve had multiple professions. Labor and delivery nurse. Corporate marketing manager. Radio host. Fitness professional. Health coach. Author. Speaker. Let’s just say, I was a Type A on steroids. More a human doing than being. In my 30’s and 40’s, I’d set goals and go after them and then pray for God to bless the work of my hands. Those years of striving were exhausting.

Then, one day I realized that God said in Jer. 29:11: “I know the plans I have for you”.  He did not say, “I know the plans you have for you.” I also read the NASB translation of Ps. 46:10 that says, “Cease striving and know that I am God.”. I set aside most of my goals and reported to duty in prayer and “let” God take the lead. I adopted a new life motto: Do the right things, for the right reasons, and trust God with the results. It is amazing how freeing it is to take on God-given assignments and let him handle the outcome.

Kathleen: In recent months our digital screens have been lit up with conversations on #MeToo and how women have even been treated unjustly, even within the Church. Share what God’s taught you about being wronged and forgiving?

Danna: Ten years into my second marriage, I was so grateful that God had blessed me with a man that was my best friend and lover. I could not understand what I’d done to deserve this second chance. And then, out of nowhere I discovered he was having an affair. My heart shattered in a

thousand pieces and I had no idea if our marriage would or could survive.

God showed me that though my husband was wrong for straying, I had played a role in the breakdown of our marriage. He humbled me to look at my part and showed me all the sin in my life that Jesus had forgiven. A thought occurred to me. Jesus never looked down at me from the cross and said, “Danna, I won’t die for that sin you committed…or for that sin you will commit ten years from now.” Instead, he died for them all. He forgave them all. In that moment, I knew that I could not withhold forgiveness from my husband.

In those difficult months, I realized that forgiveness was not a guarantee for reconciliation, but that lack of forgiveness is a guarantee that there can be no reconciliation. So, I lived one day at a time – not holding the offense against my husband – but also being honest that he would need to earn back my trust. Forgiveness did not immediately heal my broken heart, but it did begin the healing process. We celebrate our 33rd anniversary very soon. We are stronger, better friends, more in love than ever. We often say it’s been the best 23 years of our life!

Kathleen: Finally, what are your thoughts on how to influence others?

Danna: My former pastor, John Maxwell, once said something about leadership and influence that made me laugh and then take stock of my effectiveness as a leader. He said, “If you are leading and no one is following…you’re just going for a walk!”

That being said, I think we need to be careful to not diminish the power of influencing even one person at a time. My life was forever changed because one woman had the courage to share Jesus with me at a time in my life when I was struggling with debilitating panic attacks. Her influence was powerful because she was led by the Holy Spirit. She did not let the fear that a completely un-churched woman like me would judge or reject her for boldly sharing truth. Too often as leaders and communicators, we measure our value in numbers. God measures it in impact and changed lives.

Bio: Danna Demetre

Danna Demetre, is an author of seven books and is a speaker best known for the way she inspires people to change their habits from the inside out and live more healthy lives.

Danna offers practical insights and tools to help women reach their lifestyle goals through her business, Ageless Woman Living with co-founder Robyn Thomson. They produce weekly video blogs, cooking shows, and online devotionals to address the needs of women of faith over 45 and recently launched their Ageless Woman Academy. Danna has been an expert guest on many radio and television programs over the past 15 years.  She’s also shared her dynamic messages of faith and hope with thousands each year as a keynote retreat and conference speaker. She has been married for 33 years to, Lew, a West Point graduate and international businessman and they have four grown children and five grandchildren. Danna is dedicated to living a life of balance and knows it is essential to “walk your talk.” You can learn more about Danna at: www.AgelessWomanLiving.com and www.DannaDemetre.com.  Or connect with on her on Facebook: @Ageless Woman Living

Ginger Stache

Ginger Stache

Ginger Stache – Chief Creative Officer  for Joyce Meyer Ministries

  1. What’s the one thing you’d like to share with women that God has recently taught you?  

You have much to learn and much to give.

None of us have completely arrived. No matter how long I do it, how hard I study, what I’ve accomplished, or how good I am – I have much to learn. Stay pliable, humble and hungry.

Now flip that coin. No matter how inadequate I feel, how spent I may be, how much I doubt that they want to hear from me – I have much to give. Teach, mentor and love.

 

Joy – where you find your joy and how it’s different from what the world promises will bring happiness?

Joy comes in unexpected places. I’m a shoe lover so I’ll use my favorite pair to explain.

My best days come when I lace up my hiking boots. Some are days of adventure and soaking up God’s creation.

Others are difficult days of trudging through slums and trash dumps, encountering people in the most heartbreaking situations on earth and bringing them God’s love.

My boots provide solid footing both on the mountaintops and the lowest points –and surprisingly, each can bring immeasurable joy. Joy is much deeper than happiness so slip on your shoes of readiness to find joy in every situation.

 

Being Unique – how someone can set themselves apart with their own gifts and talents, Or, why it’s important to embrace being different.

Unique is what gives you your edge.  Your uniqueness becomes your brand, what you can offer that no one else can, the reason your message hits the mark.  It separates you from the masses.

 

Being unique is also the reason that you don’t need to compare yourself to others which is immensely freeing.  When I compare myself to others, I often come up measurably short. Thankfully God’s ledger looks much different than the one in my mind. After all, He gave me those unique talents and quirks that make me, me.

 

  1. We all impact others lives, but what’s the one thing you’ve learned about influence?

(answers might be about….)

 

-Why God tells us to go and be an influence to the world.

-Why we’re to be a “lasting” (sweet Aroma) influence.

 

Influence is important, but it is the motive behind your desire for influence that matters most.

 

It isn’t as easy as it sounds, so I have learned to pray Phil 1:26 daily — that my presence will bring others joy in Christ.  I ask for influence, not for my sake, but for others and ultimately for Him.

 

Phil 1:25 Convinced of this, I know that I will remain and continue with you all, for your progress and joy in the faith, 26 so that in me you may have ample cause to glory in Christ Jesus, because of my coming to you again. (ESV)

 

 

Ginger Stache is an award-winning producer and the Chief Creative Officer of Joyce Meyer Ministries. Always a pen in her hand and a smile on her face, she leads the ministry’s media areas including broadcast, online and print with a passion to share God’s love, help the forgotten and elevate the creative level.  She can be seen on Joyce’s programs Enjoying Everyday Life and Everyday Answers and has traveled the world sharing the work of the ministry’s outreach arm, Hand of Hope.